Category: Know Your fetish

Correction: Lady Lita is still extremely active and making new and exciting content. You can find her recordings HERE, and you can also find information about various forms of live sessions as well.

Additionally, I’d hate to think that this post in its original form did anything other than celebrate someone whose work I deeply enjoy! 

Semi-Retired is a multi-part series that focuses on Hypnodommes that are no longer as active as they once were. This series does not explore the reasons for their absence, but does explore the marks they left on me, and maybe you too. SEE ABOVE.

Part 1: My Second Hypno-Crush I love Lady Lita. And honestly, I’ve loved her from afar for a VERY long time. And by love her, what I mean is I have very fond feelings for her work, and my history with her as I don’t know her at all. She was an important figure in developing the scene, was immensely popular for a good chunk of time, and for some people she was a problematic character. I’m going to brush over most of that, and instead focus on what she meant to my development.

Anxiety, Depression, Hypnosis, Distractions

            I was talking with a Pro Domme friend the other day, and while we were mainly not talking about work stuff, we did, as always happens in this industry, end up touching on work stuff, and the experience of trance. She told me how, in Skype sessions, she’ll watch for clients as they start to disassociate and pull their focus back, and this got me to thinking about something I’d never put in context of hypnosis before:

            My Attention Deficit Disorder!

            I also got to thinking about, and this will be covered in another blog very soon, how the kind of person that, generally speaking, most wants to experience a loss of control is fundamentally terrible at doing so just from a skills perspective.

            So, let’s talk a little bit about various mental health and neurodiversity issues, cobbled together from person and anecdotal experience, and examine how they can impact our experiences and relationships with hypnosis and being hypnotized.

            I think it goes without saying that I’m not a mental health professional, but given the nature of what this is all about, let me explicitly state that I am not an expert on any of this stuff (past functional professional expertise on hypnosis). Now, with that out of the way, let’s get to it.

I grew up with a parent who was/is in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), and I grew up afraid to drink when I was in high school, because I was afraid of becoming an alcoholic. I have self control, and impulse control issues that were much worse when I was younger, and what I thought were addictive tendencies have in turn turned out to be gluttony issues. It’s a fine line, but it’s not the same. When you’re an addict, you “can’t” stop, when you’re a glutton, you choose not to.

But, I was lucky, because when I did start really drinking at 19, I only had to deal with the basic idiocy of youth, and the fun of over-doing it until the night’s fun turned to physical misery, and then a day or so later, when that misery would circle back around to the fun of celebrating that over indulgence.

If you’ve gone hard at life at all, you know that, “I was so drunk, and…” is usually the start of a great story.

Preface: Before we get going, I want to clarify that this is about the Femdom Hypnosis scene, not about the practice of female domination via hypnosis as a concept. 

Outsiders?
So this is a special, exclusive club now?
No, that’s not what I mean at all.
It’s not a question of if you belong or not, it’s about the fact this scene is really its own thing, and like any niche it operates by its own rules. This is especially, maybe even glaringly true if you’re coming from a more traditional kind of D/s experience and/or kink play. So when I say “Outsider” what I mean is someone who is not culturally indoctrinated in this scene either as a domme or a sub.

So, first things first:

Hello everyone, now that I’m an accomplished script writer, and blogger who just this month has reached  TWENTY YEARS OF EXPERIENCE in the world of Femdom Erotic Hypnosis, I think I’m going to start calling myself an expert, and lording my accumulated knowledge over other people by saying:

As someone with TWENTY YEARS OF EXPERIENCE…

Okay, I’m not, because that would make me (even more?) insufferable, and also because there’s a certain misleading nature to it, as it sounds like I’ve been working in the scene the whole time, where slightly over half those years were just me being a horny consumer.
That isn’t to say I haven’t always paid a lot of attention the entire time (I have, it’s how my brain’s wired), or that my experience as a consumer isn’t invaluable (it’s hugely valuable and necessary to my work), but the context matters… so while you bet I’m adding that to my website, it will be qualified.

I’m making a resource list of female hypnotists that are on YouTube, separate lists for vanilla/therapeutic, and pervy, and I know some people might wonder why? Not why is this list being made, after all this is a Femdom Hypnosis site, but if you don’t come from the Femdom Hypnosis scene, then you might wonder what’s the big deal?

(Aside from female voices bein the minority voice in YouTube hypnosis content…)

There is, and this is coming from an outsider’s look in, a big difference between the culture, and makeup of the Femdom erotic hypnosis world, and for lack of a better term, the casual or mainstream erotic hypnosis world.

The reason I’m using the word casual has nothing, and I repeat NOTHING to do with the intensity, efficiency, or capacities of the non-Femdom exclusive side of things, it’s that the Femdom scene is largely, dramatically so, a pro-domme/pay for play scene, and there’s a reason for that.

Most of the people that are into Femdom Hypnosis are white, straight, middle class (middle class adjacent) cis men.
Yes, there is a large contingent that is interested in sissy/forced-bi/forced gay/forced feminization content, but many of those people identify as their assigned gender, and many of them identify as straight.
This is, point blank, the market and fan base that exists:

Cis Hetero White Men.
(See Also: Me)

There’s a scene in a later issue of Fatale, where one of that story arc’s main characters is robbing a bank to get money together for his grunge band to pay for their music video.
That story arc was set in Seattle -where I live-, and that bank, in the comic, was a real location in 1995 when that story was taking place.
In the present day and for the last 20 years or so, it has been a coffee shop. It has been my coffee shop for most of that time as well, and I somehow missed that fact that I was sitting in that place reading that book, listening to Alice In Chains the first time I read it, because I’m old enough to be old Seattle.
But, what is Fatale in the first place?